Resigning Leave With Class

TCHG Executive Search10 Things to Consider – Resigning Leave With Class

This is such a hot market. Everyone’s crushing it, yada yada. But there seems to be an inverse relationship between success and decorum these days, so let’s start to chip away at the symptoms one by one and bring some sanity back into technology. People are just moving too quickly and here and there, we should all slow down a little and ask ourselves: “Am I conducting myself the way I’d want my kids to behave as an adult? Am I proud of who I am? What’s my legacy going to look like professionally and personally?” Because in the long run, when we’re all on our death beds, and no one cares about your toys or your cars or houses, including you, it’s going to come down to who you were as a human being. One way or another, this reality always seems to come back into peoples’ field of view, unless they’re a sociopath. And if you’re a sociopath, please stop reading this because you’re wasting your time.

Let’s kick around how to resign with class as a first topic, because I’m seeing lame behavior here all the time. I think it’s time to start thinking about this because, besides being the right thing to do: A) this boom won’t last forever, B) this technology community is a lot smaller than everyone thinks, C) karma DOES matter…

So you’ve gotten recruited successfully. Wow. You must be awesome, right? Someone reached out, found you, fell in love with you, vice versa, you’ve soul searched, you’ve met everyone, you’ve thought about the disruption you’re going to cause with your current company but damn it, you’re moving on. You’re DOING IT. But what happens next is the key. The relationships at stake, the hopes and dreams of the folks who work for you and around you, the people who depend on you. This is what’s at stake. But you got the end of those machinations, accepted a new job and now the really hard work begins: how to leave your current employer and all those people around you, gracefully.

Here are 10 things to do and a few things NOT to do weaved among them, when resigning:

1. Do NOT make it personal, even if it is. Yeah, your blood is boiling. You were wronged somehow. Didn’t get the right resources, didn’t get the promotion, didn’t get the financing, the emotional or political support you needed. It’s everyone else’s fault you didn’t succeed. Or maybe it’s all purely a case where the new thing was so awesome you just had to do it. Whatever it is…make sure you communicate it in a professional and dignified way, what you’re planning to do next and why. Don’t have to be specific (covering this later), but focus on the next thing vs the last thing. Give a constructive exit interview that’s candid and data driven, and say goodbye.

2. Once you resign, tell them early and often that you’re not open to a counter, even if you think you are. Be vague about where you’re going, so they don’t visualize it. It’s like describing the physique of the person you’re leaving your significant other for. Is that cool? Reinforce that you’re going to something you really want to do, what it does for you professionally and personally, don’t over sell what you’re doing but focus on the windshield vs the rear view mirror, and make it clear that you’re set and not open to negotiating how they can keep you.

So let’s talk about counters for a second and drill in a little. If they counter, and you stay…   (…read more)

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